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BDSM For Newbies
A beginner’s guide to help submit to his cravings…
Are you nervous or unsure about booking your first visit to a Professional Mistress? Well don’t worry, this section is for you and hopefully, it will lay some of your concerns to rest and prevent any misconception.
Begin your BDSM journey with Mistress Dayana
After all, what sort of person would want to indulge in submission, anal play, sissification, corporal punishment etc.? Why would a ‘normal’ person want to worship feet, or want to be tied up and at the mercy of someone else, why would someone want to be in chastity, or be spanked or perhaps humiliated for their penis size? The answer is someone who is strong enough and confident enough to realise that their desires are perfectly normal to them and that trying to live your life in a state of self-denial is not a route to happiness.
Providing that your interests fall under the paradigm of SSC (Sane, Safe and Consensual) or RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), then as long as it makes you enjoy it then there is nothing wrong with you.
Denying who you are and what you like is the best way for an unhappy and unfulfilling life. So, my message to you here is don’t waste months or years of your life wondering “what if…?” or “am I normal?” (who likes normal and boring in any event?) Instead, tell yourself ‘Carpe Diem’ and take the plunge as the only way to know for sure is to try!
BDSM stands for bondage/discipline, submission/dominance, and sadism/ masochism.
These categories refer to a wide array of kinks and erotic practices and you’ll find that many of the common themes — power dynamics, pain, humiliation, the taboo — are psychological in nature.
You can engage in all elements of BDSM – bondage and discipline, dominance and submission and sadism and masochism – and many of them overlap, but it is about exploring and choosing what is right for you.
Are my fantasies and desires, okay?
Some people can spend years looking at websites and agonizing over whether or not to book a session. A lot of this comes down to a mixture of shyness, concern for privacy, and worry over whether it is weird or perhaps wrong in some way.
Well, the first thing to know is that one person’s “wow that’s kinky” is another person’s “what? that is not kinky at all!” I have met people who couldn’t understand why someone might, for example, like to be completely restrained in bondage or dressed in panties and stockings.
But unless your sex life is the missionary position, socks on, lights off, no talking and once a year is plenty, then there will be someone somewhere who thinks you are kinky, let alone if you have ever used a blindfold or a pair of furry handcuffs.
On a personal level, I understand how difficult it can be to accept that your desires are a natural part of who you are. It can be scary, and terrifying and it can seem much easier to browse forever and never take the plunge.
What should I know when enquiring about booking a session?
The most important thing is to be clear, articulate, and honest about your interests and curiosities. You should also try and remember that you are communicating with a real-life person and not some sexbot that is available 24/7 for incessant “sexting”.
I will always reply to polite enquiries but when I don’t receive an instant reply remember that patience is a virtue!
What will happen when I arrive?
Whilst there is however no such thing as a “typical session” as everyone is different, it can help to know that when you arrive the scariest thing you will be first faced with is saying hello.
The first 5-10 minutes of your session will typically involve a light-hearted conversation to double-check your interests and most importantly to talk through any concerns you might have.
What happens in a typical session?
People have a lot of different ideas about what visiting a Professional Mistress involves.
You just need to find your way and that is why I am here. I will guide you through this maze, declutter your thoughts and help you understand yourself, your cravings, and likings.
Just keep in mind, as a newbie I will not put you on the spanking bench and start marking your skin with my cane.
Novices Misconceptions About BDSM Sessions
- No, a session is not about sex (you need to book an Escort for that or someone that has mentioned it is what they want and do as well)
- No, it is not about receiving harsh pain from a shouty snarling madwoman;
- No, your Mistress is not a psychic mind-reader so good communication is important;
- Yes, it is about having fun and enjoying the experience.
- Yes, I am a Professional Mistress this means that it is my chosen career as well as my lifestyle and I charge for my time accordingly. However, for me it is not “just about money” if I don’t think we are a good match for each other or that we won’t “click” then there is no point in me accepting a session as to get the best experience from a session we both need to be having fun!
