Femdom Humiliation
London Humiliation Mistress Dayana
Learn how deep trust and taboo desires can transform humiliation into a powerful, consensual experience of release and pleasure.
A few words about the Humiliation/Degradation Kink
First things first, My dear girls and boys, let’s try to clarify some terminology!
Humiliating = making someone feel ashamed and foolish by injuring their dignity and pride.
Degrading = causing people to feel that they have no value; making someone feel less than human; to lower someone.
Very important and the reason We ask about your interests or which type of humiliation/r degradation or what your limits are etc is because Humiliation is subjective.
What gives someone a feeling of humiliation (and turns them on) will be meaningless to another person. Maybe one person finds an aspect humiliating while another finds it annoying or not humiliating at all.
There are different types of humiliation and degradation: verbal or physical, or in private or public.
Another important aspect is consent and clear communication pre and after the play and not always, but depending on the person and level of humiliation, also aftercare may be needed!
Humiliation is considered a form of edge play, which means if you aren’t careful, real mental and emotional harm can be done. Things you think are okay really aren’t once experienced, understand also the difference between fantasy talk and real humiliation play.
There is nothing wrong with fantasy talk, but if you wish to proceed to reality, then keep in mind that what you thought you could do (physically or otherwise), you might discover that you actually can’t, while being faced with it. Of course, if we advance in our D/s dynamic, then I will slowly push your boundaries in a safe, sane way!
Openly talk about triggers, past experiences, or mental illnesses.
If you find that certain aspects of the kink are causing undue stress or emotional discomfort, communicate openly with Me so that I can adjust the play or establish new boundaries. This way both of us get the best out of it
My plan is to “break” you and rebuild you into a better version of yourself, either for Me or to help you accept who you are, but I do not plan to break you at the point of no return or to make you hate this kink.
Why do I like it?
Hmm, I have been wondering that myself when these thoughts first occurred whilst I was still fairly young. Years passed and I put the thoughts aside, as a child I couldn’t really understand why I would want to bully someone.
Nowadays I understand that there is erotic humiliation bullying and then there are insecure, weak people bullying. I had the same thoughts when it came to ball busting and grabbing guys balls or face slapping. But I didn’t really have any problems enjoying those ones!
There are several reasons for which I enjoy this Kink, mostly now since I understand it better:
One of the things that turns Me on is the vulnerability and the connection created through the trust given, because I get to find out about your deepest fears and insecurities but in a safe way, I reach deep down into your most private and darkest thoughts and take them out an play with them. The look in your eyes, the vulnerability, the trust, is so damn erotic.
It is about that feeling of power I have over someone. And what makes it great for me, they asked and begged for that. I hold in My hands (and mind) the power to break you down and built you up again.
I love the power exchange and that you crave to be bullied and humiliated by Me,( I mean it’s quite humiliating to beg and pay to be humiliated in some contexts).
It is so empowering seeing how you put yourself into my hands, willingly, My toy, My play thing! I simply enjoy using someone purely for My pleasure and amusement. Let’s not forget, I love to laugh, and you might just be the perfect tool for that. Seeing how pathetic you can be and get, isn’t that deliciously funny? For Me it is. I enjoy when it is playful!
But, let’s not forget everything is subjective, so I enjoy that it can be versatile in how deep you go with it, it can be playful and fun to deep and rough and very personalized.
Why do some people enjoy it?
Hmmm, again I would say that this is also subjective and it has be proven by research (although it is also common sense) that humiliation and degradation are to be a particular intense emotion, it can bring one in a state of subspace, where inhibitions are lost and one just loses itself into submission and surrender.
There’s a lot going on here, there’s no one (or even one proven) theory behind it.
Maybe part of it comes from the “shame” we all grew up with, either due to religion, gender, power dynamic, body shape, cock dimension or other reasons. In time you might feel shame and pleasure interchangeably therefor resulting in the creation of the fetish.
Also, it is about engaging with the Taboo, mmm that’s so thrilling, isn’t it?
Another reason can be related to how you react physically. You get an adrenalin rush, your heart beats faster, your skin grows hotter – in turn sexual sensation becomes more intense and more pleasurable (it is also a reason why pain is so looked for)
There are a few articles that tell us how the symptons of humiliation (blushing, tightening in the belly, accelerated breathing and heart rate, etc.) are also symptoms of sexual arousal, so it is not a surprise as to why so many of you find it also erotic.
And another reason might be the release of tension, of doing that shameful thing and finding a purpose in it, of feeling the fear but surviving it and that in turn can heighten the senses, making the feeling even more intense, therefore the pleasure more intense.
I do not recommend trying to hide who you are, trust me, it is not healthy for your mind nor body.
I think that when one tries to deny who and what they are and go against it, well that is when you will harm yourself the most. Either by denying who you are and what you crave and what makes you happy or gives your life purpose but also in some cases it can make you break and then you might choose to act on your cravings but not by the best or safest choices for yourself.
One Last Note…
Be aware sub drop is real, there are several ways to combat it, for some it might not happen but for other it can impact them for a few days after it and even make you run away from who you are Of course relapsing can happen, but it’s better when you relapse but are aware of the implication.
There are a few ways to help with sub drop and again it can be different from individual to individual.